Greetings, folks. My name is Wes, and along with Ron, I’m one of the guys who helped start this blog. Here’s a bit about me and why I’m here. Currently, I’m trying to finish up a PhD in New Testament studies at Durham University (UK); I’m writing on Paul’s epistles and the doctrine of the Trinity. I’m also in the initial stages of pursuing ordination in the Anglican Church in North America. On a more personal note, I happen to be gay and celibate. My book Washed and Waiting: Reflections on Christian Faithfulness and Homosexuality tells a bit of the story of my faith and sexuality and how I came to think of celibacy as my vocation, and I won’t rehash all of that here. Suffice it to say, in light of my earlier reflections on Christian faith and gay experience, my primary interest these days has to do with the “So now what?” question. If I’m signed up to the church’s historic teaching on marriage and celibacy, what does it look like to try to make that teaching beautiful in the life I’m now living?
I’ve started working on a few personal essays about friendship that I hope, sooner or later, to turn into a book, a sort of follow-up to Washed and Waiting. My hope is to talk through a lot of my ideas for that project here on this blog and get constructive feedback. Most of my concerns can be boiled down to a few basic questions: Should celibate gay Christians think of friendship as some of kind of “replacement” for marriage? If that’s the wrong way to think of it, what should we expect from friendship? What kind of thing is friendship? How does philia differ from eros? Can friendship be a form of sublimated eros? What would it mean to see friendship not as something mutable or optional but as, in a sense, given or even vowed?
Hopefully this blog will be a good platform for me to fill out those questions a bit more… and venture some answers!