1. It shows the diversity of stories that fall under the broad categorization of “mixed-orientation marriage.”
Aidyn Sevilla describes himself as a gay Christian in a heterosexual marriage. I generally don’t take any specific label. Some use the label bisexual, others stick with same-sex attracted. Beyond labels, Aidan’s story bears some marked similarities and differences from my own. There were parts of his story I read and thought, “Yes, that’s exactly how that feels.” There were other parts that didn’t really resonate at all with my own experiences.
2. Aidyn is asking the right question: “What does discipleship look like for me?”
To me this is the central question the church should be asking about its same-sex attracted members. What can we say positively about discipleship for same-sex attracted Christians, especially in the context of providing community and relationships?
3. His post is remarkable in its vulnerability and openness. The church needs to hear these stories of those who “walk between” (as Aidyn puts it) in all their beautiful messiness.
The author’s use of discipleship language finds a lot of conceptual parallels with the language of vocation that has found some traction here at SF. I’ll conclude with a quote from Aidyn on his experience of discipleship:
Discipleship has meant developing a balanced view of my sexuality in the context of my whole self. My sexual orientation is a foundational aspect of who I am … but so are my faith and relationships. It has meant becoming aware of how my life impacts the lives around me—my wife, my son, the younger men I have mentored. Discipleship means living in the foundational tension between wanting what I want so very badly, but recognizing that God might want something different. Discipleship is learning to trust that what God wants is better.
Kyle Keating is a M.Div. candidate at Covenant Theological Seminary and teacher of Bible and Theology at a small Christian school in St. Louis, Missouri where he lives with his wonderful wife Christy. He can be followed on Twitter: @KyleAKeating.