This past year I was part of a team that invited celibate gay Christians to participate in a survey. We have reopened the survey to ensure more people have a chance to participate and have their voices heard. If you already completed the survey, THANK YOU – we genuinely appreciate you sharing your experience with us. If you did not complete the survey at that time, would you take about 15-20 minutes to do that? Here is the link:
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/DVFPS8Q
If you know of others who might be interested in participating, please feel free to share the link with them.
Thank you,
Mark A. Yarhouse, PsyD
Professor of Psychology & Hughes Endowed Chair
Director, Institute for the Study of Sexual Identity
School of Psychology and Counseling
Regent University, CRB 161
1000 Regent University Drive
Virginia Beach, VA 23464
Spiritual Friendship 
I was wondering if there’s any interest in your organization in studying asexual Christians, who may or may not be celibate.
This website interests me because the types of relationships that it envisions are fairly similar to the types of relationships that I actually desire. But in the hyper-sexualized world of evangelical Christianity, this presents a problem. For most evangelicals, one’s “identity in Christ” is pretty much coterminous with the identities set forth by compulsory heterosexuality. Thus, asexual people face just as much discrimination and marginalization within the evangelical church as LGBTQ people. I’ve been referred to reparative therapy. I’ve been asked to leave churches. I’ve been barred from taking Communion. I’ve endured counseling along the lines of: “Dominating a woman in bed is the godly man’s form of Communion; no man can expect to see God without having a healthy appetite it.” Evangelicals are unremittingly vicious toward anyone who fails to fall in line with compulsory heterosexuality. I think we generally think of LGBTQ people as being the prime victims of that their abuse. But asexuals–whose sex lives, incidentally, look a bit more like that of Jesus–are also victims.
I think the experiences of asexuals within evangelical contexts also helps lay bare the lie that evangelicals oppose LGBTQ inclusion because of good-faith convictions based on passages like those at the end of Romans 1. But I think we all know that’s a lie. And the experiences of asexuals within evangelicalism disclose it as the lie that it is. So, including asexuals in the discussion helps to get at the *real* reasons why evangelicals likely oppose homosexuality, asexuality, and pretty much anything that departs from full-bore Driscoll-esque heterosexuality.
We are open to it. I’ve known many asexual people, but it just hasn’t been a line of research we’ve opened up yet. Perhaps down the road.
Thanks. Also, my experiences may be a bit more unique to the “New Calvinist” context, where, especially for men, heterosexual desire is generally viewed as a sign of God’s favor. In evangelical contexts that aren’t as obsessed with enforcing certain restrictive codes for “biblical masculinity,” it may be better for asexuals.
Do you have an idea of when the study will conclude and results/findings be published?